I’m an American woman living in Delhi. ‘Don’t date the locals’ is horrible advice.

I first fell in love in Delhi three years ago, with an Indian classmate during a college semester abroad. The city and the relationship were new and exciting. We spent hours talking in the warm kitchen, a cigarette dangling from my girlfriend’s lips as she cooked. My budding relationships with her and with our new friends … More I’m an American woman living in Delhi. ‘Don’t date the locals’ is horrible advice.

Final Clubs, Take Two

I continue to weigh in on Harvard’s contentious debate over single-gender secret societies: The final clubs. After a recent administration-level decision to sanction members of unaffiliated single-gender clubs, I do a happy dance and offer up some analysis.    

Harvard’s Final Clubs and Cultures of Exclusivity

Check out my new piece at Time about Harvard’s final clubs — and why they represent a legacy of exclusivity that has no place in the 21st century University. Walking down Massachusetts Avenue on a Friday night was always an exercise in exclusion. This main drag through Harvard’s campus in Cambridge, Mass., has the rare … More Harvard’s Final Clubs and Cultures of Exclusivity

Coverage of the Indian Student Movement for the Right to Dissent

Here in Delhi, recent central government action against students at Jawaharlal Nehru University, including the jailing of three student activists under archaic sedition laws, has prompted a movement for the freedom to dissent. You can check out my coverage of the movement for Feministing below. Activists Charged with Sedition as Indian Students Protest for the … More Coverage of the Indian Student Movement for the Right to Dissent

What I Would Have Said to you Last Night Had You Not Cum and then Fallen Asleep

Alas, friend of mine, you have had an orgasm and are falling asleep. I have not had an orgasm and am not falling asleep, which means I am awake, which means I am now going to lecture you about feminism. Who are you? (Big questions.) You are anyman, everyman, you are one of any number of lucky … More What I Would Have Said to you Last Night Had You Not Cum and then Fallen Asleep

On Honoring Survivors — All Survivors

I’m interested in reconsidering the way we understand sexual violence and intimate partner violence, their victims, and their perpetrators. We need more complex models of sexual violence that seek real justice — not further harm. And we need to respect the complexity of lived experiences of pleasure, violence, and sexuality. My Vagina is Tired of … More On Honoring Survivors — All Survivors

Let’s Talk About Queer Intimate Partner Violence

I have written by this point an absurd number of pieces on queer intimate partner violence, because it’s really real and really ignored. Here are some of them: New Report on Intimate Partner Violence Among LGBT People The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, a coalition cordinated by the New York-based Anti-Violence Project, has just released … More Let’s Talk About Queer Intimate Partner Violence

Me and the Feministing Crew in New York Mag’s “Why sex that’s consensual can still be bad”

The wonderful Rebecca Traister wrote a piece for New York Magazine on why we need to be setting the bar for ethical sex a lot higher than just consent. Check out quotes from my and more of the Feministing crews’ work on sexual pleasure, violence, and equality. Last winter, Reina Gattuso was a Harvard senior majoring … More Me and the Feministing Crew in New York Mag’s “Why sex that’s consensual can still be bad”