Category: Sexuality
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The Psychology of the Orgasm Gap
We know that women face a number of challenges to achieving equality. In the boardroom, we face the wage gap. And in the bedroom: The orgasm gap. Researchers (and everyday people!) have found that a gap exists between the frequency with which men and women experience orgasm, especially during heterosexual sex. Specifically, women consistently have fewer…
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How Psychology Stigmatized Female Orgasm (and How We Got It Back)
Read the full article at Talkspace. For most of us, orgasms are, simply, awesome. Yet from the origins of modern psychology in the late nineteenth century, a combination of cultural stereotypes, pseudoscience, and plain old misogyny created an enduring notion that women’s orgasms were a problem to be solved, rather than a normal part of sexual…
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Sexual Harassment Starts in School, and Boy Do We Know it
You can read the original piece at Feministing I was horny in high school. Like many adolescent humans, sex ricocheted through my body like a summer storm. If you’ve read any of my writing, however, you will not be even remotely surprised to know that my outspoken feminism and ability to scan Shakespearean meter did…
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Why are There so Many LGBT Youth in Prison?
Read the full original article at attn: For the thousands of LGBT youth in the American juvenile justice system, bullying is just the beginning. That’s because, while lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and gender nonconforming (GNC) youth makeup five to seven percent of young people in America, they are 15 percent of young people in the juvenile justice…
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Prison Justice is an LGBT Rights Issue
Read the full article at attn: For the millions of LGBT people incarcerated each year, the sentence is only the beginning. Oftentimes, what happens behind bars is worse than what the state mandates. Five percent of LGBT people in America have been incarcerated in the past five years. That rate is almost double the 2.7 percent incarceration…
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Fucking with Feministing: Squirt-O-Rama, Redux
Check out the original article on Feministing. Welcome to Fucking with Feministing, Feministing’s column about all things fucking and fucking-adjacent. Got a question about dildos? We’re on it. Want to explore fun, sexy sex outside of the realm of p-and-v intercourse? All over it, baby. Or maybe you’ve got a totally different question, which you can send…
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Fucking with Feministing: No Hard-On? No Problem!
Originally published at Feministing. My question is: What are some ways to have great male to female sex without penetration/ with a male who suffers from erectile dysfunction (ED)? My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with ED and its been really tough – that fucking patriarchal pressure for men to be ridiculous ultra-virile sex machines is…
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Pleasure in the Time of Nationalism
A talk on pleasure, consent, and nationalism given at St. Stephen’s College and published at Feministing. There are some scary things happening in the world. In the United States, Donald Trump continues to spew fascist garbage, while simultaneously snatching up states like kids getting candy at an Easter egg hunt. Here in India, where I’m…
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What I Would Have Said to you Last Night Had You Not Cum and then Fallen Asleep
Alas, friend of mine, you have had an orgasm and are falling asleep. I have not had an orgasm and am not falling asleep, which means I am awake, which means I am now going to lecture you about feminism. Who are you? (Big questions.) You are anyman, everyman, you are one of any number of lucky…
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Me and the Feministing Crew in New York Mag’s “Why sex that’s consensual can still be bad”
The wonderful Rebecca Traister wrote a piece for New York Magazine on why we need to be setting the bar for ethical sex a lot higher than just consent. Check out quotes from my and more of the Feministing crews’ work on sexual pleasure, violence, and equality. Last winter, Reina Gattuso was a Harvard senior majoring…
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