Category: $4 Wine

  • Getting Into Drag With the Stars of “We’re Here” Proves Queerness Is Always Political

    Getting Into Drag With the Stars of “We’re Here” Proves Queerness Is Always Political

    It’s raining in New York this November morning, one of the first really cold rains of the season. But Shangela’s suite at an upscale Manhattan hotel is warm and floral. Orchestral Taylor Swift plays in the background, and a candle burns on her coffee table. Shangela loves a scented candle. Lighting one is part of…

  • Art of the Atomic Bomb

    Art of the Atomic Bomb

    This article originally appeared at Curationist. The American development of the atom bomb heralded a new chapter in the human power to destroy. These images document the invention, use, and dangers of the first nuclear weapons during World War II and the postwar period. American propaganda attempted to erase the experiences of Japanese victims. Introduction…

  • How Trauma Affects Your Body — And How Your Body Protects You

    How Trauma Affects Your Body — And How Your Body Protects You

    “I’m on an anti-resilience kick right now,” says Dr. Janelle S. Peifer, Assistant Professor of Psychology at the University of Richmond. It is, at first glance, a surprising statement. The founder of The Center for Inclusive Therapy and Wellness, Peifer supports clients, especially women of color, as they process the ongoing traumas of patriarchy, heterosexism,…

  • How Affirmative Consent Can Up Your Massage Game

    How Affirmative Consent Can Up Your Massage Game

    How Affirmative Consent Can Up Your Massage Game When you hear the word “massage,” what comes to mind? One of the most popular images is of a thin, white woman relaxing on a table. “Massage therapy is so often put on a pedestal in a privileged way,” says J Sheffield, a body worker, massage therapist,…

  • Is Casual Sex for Me?

    Is Casual Sex for Me?

    Recently, I realized I’d never had casual sex.  Let me clarify: I’ve had a lot of sex with people I didn’t have an intimate or committed relationship with. At the time, I would have called it casual. But something nagged at me. Most of those experiences felt unfulfilling, often boundary-violating, and left me emotionally hungry.…

  • The Art of Gifting a Sex Toy

    The Art of Gifting a Sex Toy

    It’s February again, and love is in the air. And by “love,” I mean, “the sweet buzz of my favorite vibrator.”  Valentine’s Day, with its many corporate advertisements commodifying romantic love, can be a grating holiday. But it doesn’t have to be. Whether single, partnered, polyculed, or somewhere in-between (we see you, situationships), we can…

  • A Guide to Learning What Turns You On

    A Guide to Learning What Turns You On

    Every couple months, I’ll have a twinge of anxiety. “I’m a sex writer,” I’ll think. “I’ve written about sex, for a living, for years.”  And yet, my own desires often feel like little hummingbirds I’m just waiting to alight on my hand. Do I actually want to have sex with that person, or do I…

  • What Should You Do With a Captured Nazi Flag?

    What Should You Do With a Captured Nazi Flag?

    WHEN JAQUELINE ANTONOVICH FIRST SAW the flag, her body flooded with fear. She would recognize that flash of red anywhere. Antonovich is a historian at Muhlenberg College in Pennsylvania, and she had recently purchased a mid-1800s-era farmhouse in Allentown. Antonovich’s new house kept offering her small gifts from its long history—an antique glass baby bottle, an…

  • How to Deal With Bi Erasure

    How to Deal With Bi Erasure

    When Charmee Taylor, an LA-based actor, came out as bisexual two years ago, she hoped it would be a climactic moment. “A band is going to play, people are going to be like ‘Go Charmee, you’re out!’” she says. But the euphoria was tempered by a sinking realization: As a Black bi woman, Taylor would…

  • Feast on This Guide to Modern Māori Cooking

    Feast on This Guide to Modern Māori Cooking

    NOT MANY COOKBOOKS KICK OFF with the creation of the universe. Yet that’s where Monique Fiso begins Hiakai, a groundbreaking new book on Māori cuisine. First, there was nothing. Then, in the nothing, there were two lovers, Ranginui and Papatūānuku. Ranginui and Papatūānuku held each other so close that their children were trapped between them. Craving light and…