Having Healthy Sex after Sexual Assault

The summer I was nineteen, I researched and wrote a travel guide to Italy, journeying from Venice to the Cinque Terre armed only with a sundress and my handy dandy Macbook. It sounds pretty ideal, and it was—except for the constant, terrifying, enraging sexual harassment. From being groped on the train to being kissed non-consensually…

Sexual Harassment Starts in School, and Boy Do We Know it

You can read the original piece at Feministing I was horny in high school. Like many adolescent humans, sex ricocheted through my body like a summer storm. If you’ve read any of my writing, however, you will not be even remotely surprised to know that my outspoken feminism and ability to scan Shakespearean meter did…

How Much Effort Do Women Put Into Coping With Sexual Harassment in a Day?

Find the original article at Talkspace. It’s that knot of anxiety in the pit of your stomach when you walk down the street. You step off the train, your bag in front of your breasts, flinching lest the next passerby brush you “accidentally-on-purpose.” It’s never knowing whether your boss is leaning just a little too close. It’s…

We need to confront gendered violence in movement spaces.

Read the original article at Feministing. It’s easy to talk about gendered violence from conservative men because, well, their ideology is often consistent with their douchebaggery. When you’ve devoted your entire career to ranting against abortion rights on television or groping your way to a white-supremacist presidency, there’s a pretty clear and obvious connection between your stated values (sexist)…

What Does it Mean to Break Silence?

Read the original article at Feministing. After the Trump — and the Cosby — and the Weinstein — and the Toback — revelations, we heard the same question asked over and over again: How can everyone know that sexual harassment and assault are happening, and still not admit that it is happening? Why are sexual assault and harassment so often “open secrets”?  When we say that rape culture is a…